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Stories from the journey of fatherhood & brotherhood
Right or Kind? conflict honesty kindness Jan 16, 2021

My eyes bulged with disbelief as the notary said, “I’m sorry, the mortgage company didn’t get the paperwork done in time. The closing is cancelled. They didn’t tell you about this?” 

I told him they most assuredly had not told me that. I apologized for bothering him and hung up the phone. My jugular pulsed disbelief and anger. 

Two months before that we began refinancing our home. A national mortgage company gave us a great rate and assured us we’d...

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Deep Places brotherhood experiences fishing wonder Jan 10, 2021
There was no shoulder nor any car in sight for miles as we stood in the middle of the road on one of the most desolate stretches of two lane highway in southwest Colorado.  We stared in amazement.

"Oh $%!&!"
I exclaimed. "This is real bad but it could have been WAY worse."
 
The man on the other side of the trailer tongue, which was only hanging onto our half-ton pickup by the safety chains, was my best friend, a man who has known and held my story for...
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Dad's Guide to a Meaningful Christmas advent fatherhood parenting shared experience Dec 04, 2020

What if you could craft meaningful time with your kids this Christmas? What if you could create memories you'd return to year after year, that wouldn't blur together with all of the season's busyness and excitement? 

Learn 4 practical ways to craft meaningful time with your kids this Christmas. 

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The Roar Of The Crowd affirmation change Nov 29, 2020

My five inch afro bounced to the pulse of the pep band’s bass drum. I stood at center court and watched our high school’s blue bleachers slowly disappear under 2,000 fans eager to watch a high school basketball game between cross-town rivals. I did my best to appear nonchalant while I stretched - as if my stomach wasn’t the steroided rollercoaster of nerves that it was. 

I watched our band teacher’s cheeks redden as his trumpet belted piercing high notes to a...

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Barbie Car Wipeout awareness covid intentionality Nov 22, 2020

We circled 2020 long before COVID cracked it wide open. This would be the year when our car’s regular seating assignments changed. Once my daughter got her driving permit in February, we ventured out to drive in slow circles around the neighborhood. 

Then, when COVID kept most people off the roads in March and April, we took advantage of the open spaces to get some serious--and safe--practice in. The more comfortable she got with driving, the more comfortable we got just riding...

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Injured Ankles, Pain, and Restoration fatherhood pain restoration Nov 15, 2020

I grew up playing sports. If there was a ball to  throw or hit or kick – count me in. I wasn’t a fan of basketball, but if that’s what was being  played at recess or after school, you would likely find me in the middle of it. In eighth grade, my siblings and I attended a small rural school. Behind the classroom buildings was an asphalt slab which served as the basketball courts. One lunch recess, I was out on the court mixing it up with the other junior high...

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Warriors of Hope hope Nov 03, 2020
We are called to be the hope warriors of our time.
 
The Restoration Project staff team sat together at a restaurant celebrating my birthday on Friday, March 13, 2020. Over our town's best burger and beer, we reminisced about our recent journey to Kenya to launch the first international Base Camp, joked about the Swahili nicknames we'd received, and imagined the glory of the next several months of ministry. Droning on in the restaurant's background, several TVs broadcast sports, news,...
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One Word fatherhood intentionality Oct 27, 2020

You’d think my wife and I would remember the day…the year that we did this.  But that happens some times in moments you don’t realize will be so pivotal in your life.  But we do know that it was when our son was in early-elementary school.  My wife and I are type ‘A’ personalities and we will overthink and over plan making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.  So you can imagine how we raise our son.

Whatever year it was in his life, I...

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The Best Hardest Race adventure brotherhood spartan race Oct 20, 2020

“Congratulations, you’re registered for the Spartan Race...”

The email title popped into my inbox.

What had I just done? My brother had invited me to try this upcoming challenge with him.

The Spartan race was 8-9 miles of running, obstacles that included barbed wire, 8 foot walls, log carries, mud, blood, and tears. Apparently I could have done the “sprint” version, but at my brother’s invitation had gone for the “Super” level of challenge. Great....

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Good Gifts blessing fatherhood gift Oct 15, 2020

Gifts are almost always associated with occasions. A birthday, Christmas, a wedding. Think of the lengths some of us may go to find “the perfect gift”. The frustration of trying to buy something for “the guy who has everything”. The resignation we feel standing in line at a drug store with a bland Visa gift card for 20 bucks because we failed to give thought in time for the birthday party that starts in an hour. Gifts commemorate. Gifts show we care. Gifts go over like...

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A Grandfather's Intentionality grandsons intentionality Oct 11, 2020

Our oldest daughter and her family made the 10 hour trek north from Florida this July to spend a few days with my wife and me. She came with her three school-age sons. Our son-in-law was also able to join us which was a unique gift. His work has gone "virtual", and he spent most of the midday hours with a headset on which reminded me of a character from Lost in Space.

His headgear included a camera allowing him to virtually walk his work facilities with the face-mounted camera of one of his...

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What Roping Taught Me About Fatherhood fatherhood roping trust Sep 30, 2020

A few weeks ago I attended a ranch roping clinic. No, this was not a physical store that fixed miscellaneous ropes and twine, it was a three day event at the fairgrounds in Thermopolis, Wyoming where you learned how to improve your horsemanship and your ability to rope cattle. I attended it with my brother and was equal parts giddy and chew-my-cheek nervous at the opportunity to learn and practice this newfound hobby of mine. 

The clinic was taught by Dave and Gwynn Weaver - a...

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