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Stories from the journey of fatherhood & brotherhood
Following the Rules, And Running Away From God fatherhood god relationship Apr 06, 2021

Last night, pangs of disappointment stabbed my heart. 

We had our nightly prayer time with our two 11 year old sons and seven year old daughter. For the last few days we had been using a family prayer guide that was recently put out by the church we’ve been attending, in which we are working through the Lord’s prayer (Matthew 6:9-13). 

When we sat down to do it at bedtime, we looked at the section where Jesus says in verse 10, “...Your kingdom come, your will be...

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My First Black History Month fatherhood Feb 07, 2021

As I stare down my 46th year, I am engaging in Black History Month for the first time in my life. 

To say that the last 12 months has been extraordinary, does not feel like hyperbole. Between a global pandemic, the murder of George Floyd and an unprecedented presidential election cycle, this past year has defied convention, expectation and has turned upside down my sense of normal.

There have been some unexpected wins in the midst of the chaos and difficulty. We have been forced to slow...

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Dad's Guide to a Meaningful Christmas advent fatherhood parenting shared experience Dec 04, 2020

What if you could craft meaningful time with your kids this Christmas? What if you could create memories you'd return to year after year, that wouldn't blur together with all of the season's busyness and excitement? 

Learn 4 practical ways to craft meaningful time with your kids this Christmas. 

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Injured Ankles, Pain, and Restoration fatherhood pain restoration Nov 15, 2020

I grew up playing sports. If there was a ball to  throw or hit or kick – count me in. I wasn’t a fan of basketball, but if that’s what was being  played at recess or after school, you would likely find me in the middle of it. In eighth grade, my siblings and I attended a small rural school. Behind the classroom buildings was an asphalt slab which served as the basketball courts. One lunch recess, I was out on the court mixing it up with the other junior high...

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One Word fatherhood intentionality Oct 27, 2020

You’d think my wife and I would remember the day…the year that we did this.  But that happens some times in moments you don’t realize will be so pivotal in your life.  But we do know that it was when our son was in early-elementary school.  My wife and I are type ‘A’ personalities and we will overthink and over plan making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.  So you can imagine how we raise our son.

Whatever year it was in his life, I...

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Good Gifts blessing fatherhood gift Oct 15, 2020

Gifts are almost always associated with occasions. A birthday, Christmas, a wedding. Think of the lengths some of us may go to find “the perfect gift”. The frustration of trying to buy something for “the guy who has everything”. The resignation we feel standing in line at a drug store with a bland Visa gift card for 20 bucks because we failed to give thought in time for the birthday party that starts in an hour. Gifts commemorate. Gifts show we care. Gifts go over like...

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What Roping Taught Me About Fatherhood fatherhood roping trust Sep 30, 2020

A few weeks ago I attended a ranch roping clinic. No, this was not a physical store that fixed miscellaneous ropes and twine, it was a three day event at the fairgrounds in Thermopolis, Wyoming where you learned how to improve your horsemanship and your ability to rope cattle. I attended it with my brother and was equal parts giddy and chew-my-cheek nervous at the opportunity to learn and practice this newfound hobby of mine. 

The clinic was taught by Dave and Gwynn Weaver - a...

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When Popsicles Fly fatherhood forgiveness regret Sep 13, 2020

 

 There’s a split rail fence surrounding my backyard.  It separates our small stamp of grass from the trees and bushes that someone planted to decorate the main street in our neighborhood. Several years ago, a flying popsicle cleared said fence and got hung up in the bramble of a burning bush hedge. These things happen. 

It was an early summer weekend, with yard work on the to-do list. One of the top items was to give the lawn a once-over raking. Aeration plugs and a...

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Nostalgia or Regret? fatherhood nostalgia regret Sep 02, 2020
Every day for 7 years I walked the block and a half from our house to the "kiss corner." I haven't been back in 4 years. 
 
The "kiss corner" is a small patch of grass just on the edge of our elementary school's parking lot. It's an oasis of calm and connection in the midst of the chaos and hubbub of morning drop off, and it is where we said goodbye, gave each other "bubble kisses" and parted for the day. This daily ritual grounded us. All three of my children attended this...
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Knife Wielding & Deuteronomy Reading Sons fatherhood knives sons teaching Aug 21, 2020

Working from home so much this past spring and summer has given me a fun glimpse into my kids' lives that I often miss when I am at work. One morning this past spring I was struggling to open a package and started looking around for a pair of scissors. My oldest Samuel (7) said, "I’ve got one!" and took off into his bedroom. He emerged with a 4-inch fillet knife. He was followed out of his room by his younger brothers Jacob (5) and Joseph (3), each holding a gnarly-looking knife of...

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What Every Dad Needs To Hear on Fathers Day fatherhood fathers day Jun 17, 2020

You are the most important man in the world.

Who you are, what you do, and the impact you have, shape our present reality and our family’s future. There is no one more influential in our lives than you. No one.

Your character and your presence set the stage for our well-being, creating a safe and secure atmosphere for the rest of us to thrive and live. You provide the strength to stand and the tenderness to sit, and hold us tightly in your protective arms. We need you.

You are a direction...

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911 Never Stops fatherhood job change restoration Jun 14, 2020

My job requires me to frequently be on call. My company provides phone systems to 911 call centers, which require high levels of support. My kids have often heard me say, “911 never stops, it has to work”, many times.

Many times when we have been engaged in family activities,  those getaways have been interrupted by my customers needing something fixed. On more than one occasion when I’ve been skiing with my son and daughter at Copper Mountain, or Winter Park, or...

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